Most of guidebooks about sex are filled with common sense, specific experiences that may or may not apply to you, and supplementary advice, how to spice things up, for example. If you’re healthy, you’re already equipped with everything you need to have good sex. There are some things, however, that can go wrong in the bedroom if you’re not careful.
Below you’ll find a list of things that women should avoid when having sex. We also argue that men should call themselves out when committing similar offenses.
When you jump into bed with someone, you can’t assume that they’re a mind reader or that the love between the two of you is so strong that the only rule you have to follow is “anything goes.” By being just a little more thoughtful, you can avoid some major disasters. Take a look at some common blunders below.
You just lie there.
Unless you have some sort of agreement, you shouldn’t just be lying there. Sexually active folks will often say that sex is a workout, and it truly is. Put your back into it. Surprise your partner every once in a while. Seduce them.
You don’t offer any guidance.
Some of us are creatures of habit and want the same thing every time. This makes things easier on our partners, who will likely know how to please us.
For the rest of us, however, the things that turn us on will vary. If this is the case, you can’t assume your partner will know exactly what you want. Bringing a woman to sexual pleasure and an orgasm is statistically difficult, so don’t be afraid to lead the way.
You assume that sex is a casual thing for your partner.
Some of us have casual sex and that’s fine, but everyone does. For some people, sex is a sacred act, for religious reasons and beyond. Don’t assume you know where they stand. Talk about it before jumping the gun.
You think that sex will alleviate your partner’s stress.
We’re not saying this isn’t true. S3x is sometimes the best thing when you’re stressed out, but there are times when your partner just needs you. Or maybe they need some space. If they don’t respond to your sexual advances, don’t take it personally.